Every relationship goes through hard times and persevere through, making it to the other side with a bit more experience behind them. Not every bump in the road is reason to give the whole relationship up, but there are some things that are plenty of reason to say, “enough is enough” and move on alone. The following are ten things that should probably signal the end of a relationship.
1)You think of cheating often-If you are thinking about being unfaithful frequently, it is time to end the relationship that you’re in. After thinking about it long enough, most people will act on their desires eventually. This is a terrible way to break off a relationship and will hurt your partner even more than the breakup itself. It will also make you look bad, and for good reason.
2)Loss of friends and family-If the person that you are in a relationship with is trying to separate you from everyone else that you care about, this is a relationship to run away from. This type of behavior is a clear “red flag” that something isn’t right. They are probably very jealous and controlling and may escalate to being abusive.
3)All give, no take-If you find that you are constantly being the one who gives up your wishes and does all the work in the relationship, getting nothing in return, there is no reason to stay in it. Relationships should go both ways, using compromise as a key ingredient. If this isn’t happening, the person who is doing all the giving will wind up exhausted and eventually run out of energy to give any more at all.
4)Your partner is cheating- There are a few cases when a cheater can change and become a faithful, loving individual, but for the most part if a person has been unfaithful in a particular relationship they are not prone to a just this habit. There will also be trust issues that will be difficult or even impossible to overcome.
5)You are trying alone- When a relationship goes through a difficult time, you will have an opportunity to see how much your partner feels the relationship is worth. If your partner isn’t willing to put forth the effort to assists the struggling relationship, it is probably time to let it go. A relationship is about two people working together not one person trying to fix all the problems by themselves.
6)You’ve forgotten who you are- There are some relationship that tend to suck the life out of you, leaving you an empty shell of your former self. Friends and family may notice a change in you when you are around this new person in your life. If your personality is changing to accommodate another person, they are probably not the one for you. Move on and find someone who will love you for who you really are.
7)You have no goals or dreams any more- We all need to have a dream, it’s what keeps us going when times get tough. If you can’t remember your dreams and hopes, you are losing one of the most important parts of yourself and the future will begin to look bleak.
8)Abuse- Any form of abuse is reason to leave right now. If a person hasn’t become abusive yet but is showing signs that they will such as very dominant behavior, consider yourself lucky and leave before your luck runs out.
9)Kids are being affected negatively-Whether you have kids together or separately from prior marriages, they deserve to live in a stable and loving home. This is where children will thrive. They will not do well if they are living in a tense and unhappy environment. These are the innocent people in the relationship, so if they are suffering, there is no excuse for staying in the relationship.
10)You don’t like yourself-If you are starting to feel poorly about yourself, or if you have for a while, there is something wrong. It may not be the other person, but regardless, you need to take some time to yourself and heal whatever is hurting.
There are times that are hard to get through in relationships, but if you are experiencing one or more of the above issues, it is quite possibly time to take your leave. There are times that there is nothing left to do but go your own way and do what’s best for you. Those times are when “enough is really enough”!