It’s like you wake up one day and reality hits you like a ton of bricks. While sipping on your second cup of coffee at 6:00 am, watching Cairo burn on cable news, you begin checking your Facebook messages and out of the blue the “fog lifts”.
You come to a realization that the prospect of junior leaving home at age 29 and finding his own place to live by the end of the year is slim to none and at the tender age of 50 it’s more than likely you’re going to have to work at least 20 more years in order to pay off your home’s second mortgage. Junior’s wife and their two kids make too much noise and someone has eaten your last Eggo waffle. Damn.
Hair disheveled, knees aching from deteriorating cartilage, you look at yourself in the bathroom mirror and you say to the reflection staring back at you, “My wife and I don’t talk anymore, our new next door neighbors never speak English, my mother can’t remember my name and to top it off my weed connection won’t return any of my phone calls, how am I supposed to sell $20,000 in premium bonds at work today when everything in my life appears to be turned upside down?”
Listening to your inner voice, you look at the clock, turn off the news, get off the internet and call in sick for work.
Signs of the time
As most working Americans cope with the constant threat of losing their job(s) a transformation is occurring across the American landscape that is both alarming and unsettling.
It’s expected in our American culture that young and energetic adults will eventually leave the protection of their parent(s) “nest” and venture out on their own in order to begin their own life and in most cases their own family and their own nest. The “Great Recession” that tens of millions of Americans are still struggling to recover from has sadly changed the dynamics of when young adults leave their parent’s home.
It’s not unusual anymore to see adults in their 30s and 40s returning with their own family in tow to live with their aging parents; unfortunately, the return of the prodigal son / daughter is no longer just a Bible story, it has become the “revised norm” in today’s American society.
Being unemployed / underemployed in 2013 has caused tens of millions of Americans to become more dependent on unemployment pay and other social programs in order to feed their family. Shelters and abandoned buildings are bursting “from the seams” with homeless people who because of the “signs of the time” have no other place to go. Your dignity is hard to uphold when you’re 38 years old you have a teaching degree and you and your wife and kids live in your parent’s basement. Your manager at your second part-time job at Burger King is promising to promote you from “fries” to assistant manager…that’ll be a 50 cent an hour pay increase, wow…Your dad snores too loudly and there’s one Eggo waffle left. Damn, life isn’t fair.
As always the New Orleans Examiner is interested in what you think. Do you know this family? If so, please tell us about them. And, because of erratic employment opportunities, has it become more acceptable in 2013 for adult children to move back home with their parents? Inquiring minds wanna know. Sound off.
Until next time, Good day, God Bless and Good fishing.