How much does texting lower relationship quality or negatively affect a marriage or other relationship? After all, texting expressions of affection makes the relationship better. I means someone you like is thinking lovely thoughts and expressions about you and texting those affectionate words to you using a more private aspect of social media when the text is seen only by you.
Check out the abstract of the original study, “Using Technology to Connect in Romantic Relationships: Effects on Attachment, Relationship Satisfaction, and Stability in Emerging Adults.” It just has been published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy: Innovations in Clinical and Educational Interventions. Volume 12, Issue 4, 2013.
Couples shouldn’t let their thumbs do the talking when it comes to serious conversations, disagreements or apologies, according to Brigham Young University (BYU) researchers Lori Schade and Jonathan Sandberg. The researchers studied 276 young adults around the country and found that being constantly connected through technology can create some disconnects in committed relationships, according to the new study discussed in the October 30, 2013 news release, “Too much texting can disconnect couples.” The study also has been published this week in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy.
Here are a few highlights from the report they published this week in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy
- For women: Using text messages to apologize, work out differences or make decisions is associated with lower relationship quality
- For men: Too frequent texting is associated with lower relationship quality
- For all: Expressing affection via text enhances the relationship
“Technology is more important to relationship formation than it was previously,” says Schade in the news release, “Too much texting can disconnect couples.” Schade earned her Ph.D. from Brigham Young University (BYU) in August 2013. “The way couples text is having an effect on the relationship as well.”
How texting affects a relationship
The study participants weren’t just casually dating – 38 percent said they were in a serious relationship, 46 percent were engaged and 16 percent were married. Each participant completed an extensive relationship assessment that included questions about their use of technology in the relationship.
About 82 percent of them traded text messages with their partner multiple times a day. And it’s not always “I <3 u!!!” or “Where do you want to go for lunch?”
Many of the couples used texting for stuff scholars call “relationship maintenance,” or the kind of conversations that help couples get on the same page. Ordinarily having these conversations is a good thing, but texting can get in the way and makes things worse.
“Reaction to disappointment and reality testing occurs more quickly face to face,” Sandberg says in the news release. “There is a narrowness with texting and you don’t get to see the breadth of a person that you need to see.”
For men, more texting doesn’t necessarily mean a better relationship
Men don’t just get tired of receiving texts. Their relationship satisfaction is also lower when they send a lot of texts themselves, the study explains. “We’re wondering if this means men disconnect and replace in-person conversations with more texting,” Schade says in the news release. “Maybe as they exit the relationship, they text more frequently because that’s a safer form of communication. We don’t know why, that is just a conjecture.”
The good news is that saying something sweet in a text works universally for men and women. In fact, sending a loving text was even more strongly related to relationship satisfaction than receiving one.
The bottom line is that if you don’t have something nice to text, better not text at all
BYU professors Roy Bean, Dean Busby and Sarah Coyne co-authored the study with Schade and Sandberg. Check out the abstract of the original study, “Using Technology to Connect in Romantic Relationships: Effects on Attachment, Relationship Satisfaction, and Stability in Emerging Adults.” It just has been published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy: Innovations in Clinical and Educational Interventions. Volume 12, Issue 4, 2013.
You also may want to check out related studies such as, “Can’t buy me love: Study shows materialistic couples have more money and more problems” or “Do chores together for better relationship.” But if you’re controlled, bullied, or constantly criticized by an attack dog personality who wants to hurt you out of anger, forget the doing chores together until the bully stops calling you names, has behavior management counseling and uses it, or otherwise stops micromanaging you for control based on the insecurity of the super critic and name-caller in your relationship.
Some spouses would prefer a partner who earned money instead of focusing on creativity that never brings in any income. And other partners enjoy when the light bulb in the mind is working for both partners at the same time or in different decades. The important point is when the light bulb of the mind is switched on.
What makes the light bulb of the mind go on? Creativity ‘ticks’ and streams in reactions to single spoken words
State University neuroscientist has created a quick but reliable test that can measure a person’s creativity from single spoken words. Jeremy Gray, associate professor of psychology at Michigan State University, has created a simple test that can measure someone’s creativity level from single spoken words, according to the feature, “Brain Matters at MSU.”
The “noun-verb” test is so simple it can be done by virtually anyone anywhere – even in an MRI machine, setting the stage for scientists to pinpoint how the brain comes up with unusually creative ideas. Whereas some believe ingenuity is spontaneous, MSU neuroscientist Jeremy Gray suspects there’s a lot of hard work going on in the brain even when the proverbial light bulb going off feels effortless. The findings from his latest research are published in the journal Behavior Research Methods.
“We want to understand what makes creativity tick, what the specific processes are in the brain,” Gray says, according to the October 30, 2013 news release, What makes creativity tick? “Innovation doesn’t just come for free – nobody learns their ABCs in kindergarten and suddenly writes a great novel or poem, for example. People need to master their craft before they can start to be creative in interesting ways.”
For his latest research, 193 participants were shown a series of nouns and instructed to respond creatively with a verb in each case. The test took about two minutes
For the noun “chair,” for example, instead of answering with the standard verb “sit,” a participant might answer “stand,” as in to stand on a chair to change a light bulb. The researchers checked that the answers were in fact verbs and somehow related to the noun; excluding the few nonsensical responses made no difference to the results.
Currently, Gray and his team are having participants complete the noun-verb test in an MRI while their brain activity is recorded, in hopes of identifying parts of the brain responsible for creativity. This test is more feasible in an MRI than, say, writing stories or drawing pictures since the machine requires people to remain virtually still.
The participants also were measured for creativity through a series of more in-depth methods including story writing, drawing and their creative achievements in real life
The results: Those who gave creative answers in the noun-verb test were indeed the most creative as measured by the more in-depth methods. This suggests the noun-verb test, or a future variation, could be successful by itself in measuring creativity.
Although much more research is needed, the findings eventually could help students, entrepreneurs, scientists and others who depend on innovative thinking. “Ultimately, this work could allow us to create better educational and training programs to help people foster their creativity,” Gray explains in the news release.
The research also could be helpful in settings where selecting creative people is important, such as the human resources office, he explained in the news release. Gray is an associate professor of psychology in MSU’s Department of Psychology and Neuroscience Program. Read more about the university’s vast array of brain research in the feature story “Brain Matters at MSU.”
Gray’s co-researchers are Ranjani Prabhakaran from the National Institute of Mental Health and Adam Green from Georgetown University. Jeremy Gray, associate professor of psychology at Michigan State University, has created a simple test that can measure someone’s creativity level from single spoken words.