I don’t know of another movie that has this exact pattern of relationship information in it. Couple stress, realistic, reasonable, logical.
Though the movie the Beginners http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DFM3AE64bgw is considered a bit politically treacherous for some here in Oklahoma, it has so many messages. It’s rated R, FYI, for language, topic and nudity surely. I don’t know of another movie that has the realistic, reasonable, logical message so plainly in it. None.
Beginners won best supporting actor Oscar, Christopher Plummer.
Beginners touched on an emerging subject. It reviewed generational experiences pivoting from a single subject, and dovetailed those into life and how to define and hold quality existence.
This is the only movie in the last 10 years that completely flummoxed me when I casually had it running doing other things. At first I thought I might be able to just review parts of the flick that seemed confusing. Then with great frustration, realized I had to watch the WHOLE movie again.
This included the “making of ” trailer to get the maximum ride on concepts and stop fretting over the multi-layered gifts hidden in the story lines, photography and disclosures. It all became completely reasonable, realistic and logical with all the pieces present. WOW.
The Beginners is excellent fodder for discussion about relationships. That you really can never be your parents peer. You may have greater appreciation for your parents experiences as they age, reveal themselves to you or you come to understand more about relationships and life.
Additionally, there is no map, as friend once told me, and even with information that is revealing you still have to make choices about what you want to do with you, or offer to your partner. If anything.
This movie addresses in three separate story lines that are intertwined a generational secret that precluded available actions, choices, maybe limited those and coping in any given situation. So many community messages these days seem to continue to buffalo the public into thinking that relationship and family dynamics are either permanently tainted or magically appear.
In fact, your resources are yours to keep to yourself, give away freely or exchange with others.
When trouble comes in a coupleship and brings the couple to counseling, it is often because they are one or both not holding realistic, http://www.macmillandictionary.com/dictionary/british/realistic
and logical http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/logical beliefs regarding themselves, their partner or their coupleship.
Developing methods to draw that out in self and relationships inches up on creating a map and process to be together.
One of the gems of the Beginners is that it gives a triple track read on realistic, reasonable and logical.
Sometimes people cooperate for clarity and sometimes they cloak in fantasy, sometimes they react to limited or faulty information, bent or absent opportunities. Each type of relationship has it’s pay out, but if it isn’t what one or both seek, there is an excellent chance for fall out and disintegration in the couple.
Some tensions are NORMAL in a relationship and some tensions kill the relationship. Learning which is which is invaluable to survival of the relationship.
The reason Beginners is so en pointe, is that is is a true story. The author, a clever man also shot and produced the film to designate his personal process of evolution as a gift to family and self. Realistic, reasonable, logical was warped for him, until he as an adult learned to tolerate tension, stress and emotions.
Sans a life long teacher and on an expedited personal growth process he had a very high learning curve, and a high potential for a very high reward within those awarenesses.
And again, there is no map, as friend once told me. Even with information that is revealing you still have to make choices about what you want to do with you, or offer to your partner. If anything.
Realistic. Reasonable. Logical.