Looking back, we find Moby discussing several topics with Spin and The Quietus, including his brief romance with “Black Swan” actress Natalie Portman, what may be the only case of a straight man being gay bashed and Moby’s past drug and alcohol use.
Never married, many mistake Moby’s sexual orientation and are often surprised to learn he is straight. While an outspoken liberal who strongly supports LGBT rights and gay or same-sex marriage, Moby has been known to say surprising statements such as he was disappointed he wasn’t gay and has revealed he never engaged in same-sex activities. Not only is Moby not gay, but he has had several high-profile relationships including dating Natalie Portman; though he prefers to keep his private life private, he has spoken publicly about the relationship.
Spin asked Moby if he thought his relationship with Natalie Portman helped create the “nerd” sex-symbol status.
Moby responded, “I guess in some people’s eyes, [nerds] might be mildly sexy — and, as a nerd, I’m certainly happy to enjoy some of the effects of that — but as far as the very brief affair I had with Natalie, it’s made me the target of a lot of nerd wrath. You can’t date Luke Skywalker’s mom and not have them hate your guts.”
While the relationship with Portman came to a close, many suspected that one day Moby would step out of the proverbial closet. Some still refuse to accept that Moby is a heterosexual male, though he does have several interesting stories to tell regarding his mistaken sexual orientation. One of those stories centers around a physical assault that took place in Boston on Dec. 11, 2002, as reported by MTV.com.
According to the article, Moby suffered bruising to the face and received several stitches after three men jumped him following a performance at the Paradise Club. Moby blogged about the 2002 attack on his website.
“I assumed that a bar fight had spilled out of the bar and that somehow I had gotten caught in the middle of it. But no. After being punched in the head from behind a few times, I turned around to see what was going on and one of them punched me in the face a couple of times and then they all ran away. So now I’m sitting here bloody and beaten up and waiting to file a police report.”
One month later, Moby described the attack as “gay bashing” in another blog post.
He wrote, “I’m kind of a simpleton, but could someone please explain homophobia to me? Apparently when I was attacked in Boston it was a ‘gay bashing’ (which is kind of ironic seeing as I’m straight). I’ve asked this question before, but what in the world do people find so offensive about homosexuality? What about homosexuality is so upsetting to so many people? It’s really odd, don’t you agree?”
In 2011, Moby spoke again about the attack to The Quietus and shared his views on homosexuality. Here is a portion of that exchange.
You were once physically attacked in a possible case of heterosexual ‘gay bashing’. It is quite revealing how many of your online haters clearly want you to be gay, which is the default insult of cave-dwelling cretins everywhere…
M: I’ve wanted to be gay! I mean, there was long period on my life when I was very disappointed by the fact I wasn’t gay. Because I grew up going to gay clubs, living in New York and LA, both very gay cities. When I’m around my gay friends I always feel apologetic than I’m not gay. One time I was doing an interview for a gay magazine and halfway through the journalist found out I wasn’t gay. He said, ‘Sorry, I can’t continue the interview.’ Because they only had gay public figures in their magazine. I felt so crestfallen. I wanted to tell him: but I play fundraisers for gay marriage! I’d rather my kids were gay than straight!’
Have you never even had an experimental ride on the gay bus?
M: No, but I’ve been in all sorts of situations where that could have happened. I don’t find it off-putting or repulsive, I’m just not that interested. I was in bar about 15 years ago, a relationship had ended badly, I was very drunk and I thought I would convince myself to try and be gay. Like, at one point I didn’t like coffee, then I learned to like it. At one point I didn’t like beer, then I loved the taste of beer. So I was trying to convince myself I could learn to be gay – but no. That’s one of my great regrets.
As for drugs, Moby made the following statements to Spin in 2008.
Are there any drugs you haven’t done?
I’ve never done DMT. It only lasts 30 minutes, but apparently it’s so intense that it gives you an out-of-body experience. I’ve never smoked crack. And I did crystal meth by accident once, but that I never need to do again. I don’t like drugs that don’t end.
Moby quit drinking alcohol in 2008, and currently celebrates five years sobriety.
Moby just released his 11th studio album “Innocents.” You may listen to the entire CD free on SoundCloud here.
Charisse Van Horn blogs about Moby at Moby, Music and Mariachis. You may follow her on Twitter @charissemarie