What if there is a man that a woman wants to go out with? Should she approach him first? Where is it written that a woman cannot ask a man out for a date? In the modern dating world, the rule that a woman must wait for a date invitation is long gone. Today, most men welcome self-assured women. So, every independent woman clawing her way through the dating world should make her own rules to include going after what she wants. Yes, it can be scary putting herself out there susceptible for rejection. Everyone is afraid of rejection. But by wearing an “I” upon her chest, she is learning and gaining confidence.
Traditionalists may disagree with this whole notion of a woman asking a man out. They might even say she is sending a message of being too aggressive. But why pass up an opportunity of finding someone special? Instead of waiting around for someone or something to happen, shake things up! Consider the following clues that indicate maybe it is time for you to extend the invitation.
He is shy.
The shy guy requires a little help out of his shell. If a woman is into a shy guy, take note that she will have to ask him out. Or just wait around until he finds the courage to do so. In the end, he will be eternally grateful that she made the first move.
He is a friend.
Many friends have been in a situation where they developed “feelings” for one another. The problem is no one knows how to take things to the next level. A solution is she can ask him out and see how he responds. If he tries to clarify the details and what it insinuates, he is just buddy material. If he accepts without questions or clarifications, he might be a keeper.
His body language signals yes.
With a smooth hand touch, eye contact, and a lingering hug, he is telling his intentions without saying a word. His body language is perhaps saying things he simply is too afraid or shy to articulate. Why not take a chance and start the ball moving?
He shows interest.
With so many distractions with our personal lives, it can be easy to lose interest or just touch with certain people. However, if he returns messages when promised, then that is a sign he is in it to win it. Consistency and reliability are a big deal and indicate genuine interest.
It is always rewarding when “he” remembers any details. When he references a conversation later, it confirms that he has been listening and paying attention. He is interested and wants to learn more.
He is not always going to say yes, but it is not the end of the game. You can handle it. Rejection is fleeting. It will not make or break us. Look at it this way: the only thing to lose is a good man. Besides, it is actually good practice to step up and take the initiative. In fact, it sends a confident message that she knows what she wants and is able to ask for it.