Think about it. What if you could get fired from your relationship? (you can, it’s called a break-up)
What if you thought the fate of your future was in your significant other? (it kind of is)
What if you knew you’d be jobless/unemployed/single your whole entire life if you never took the time to update your resume/go to professional development/etc.? (well you get the point) We work so hard at “climbing the corporate ladder” and becoming “successful” that we oftentimes forget to put forth any real effort in finding or keeping a mate. We forget that relationships take effort too! But what if you applied a work ethic to your love life???
- Find the job. If you are single and sitting around complaining about being single, but doing nothing about it, it is the equivalent to complaining about being unemployed and expecting a job to just walk up and smack you in the face or fall into your lap. You have to do your part. You have to put forth some effort. Just like unemployed people have to apply to jobs and update their resumes, cover letters, and LinkedIn, single people need to update their metaphorical resumes. What are you bringing to the table? What assets are you bringing to the company/relationship? Too many people look for a job thinking about what that particular job can do for them, when the company is actually looking at an applicant trying to find out what they can add to the company. Similarly, most people enter a potential relationship looking for what that other person can do for them, but you need to think about what you can add to that other person’s life.
- Keep the job. “What they gone do? Fire me?” This is a statement said by someone who really does not give a rat about their job. They don’t care if they get fired. They don’t care how their bills get paid. And they’re not thinking about their future at all. These people tend to go from job to job (relationship to relationship) quite often and wonder why they keep getting fired. But people who want to keep their jobs think before they speak. They don’t overreact. They don’t blow things out of proportion. And they work each day to leave a good impression with the boss (and their co-workers). They intentionally work to maintain peace and order. They like having a job, just how people in good, stable relationships like being in a relationship. Just like having a job is work, being in a relationship is work. Now don’t get it twisted, a relationship shouldn’t be hard work, but it should be work. People say if you’re doing something you love, you’ll never have to work a day in your life. It’s the same thing with your relationship. If you’re with someone you truly love and with whom you are compatible, it shouldn’t feel like hard work, but you still have to show up and put forth the effort.
- Get Promoted. It’s one thing to diligently come to work on time, leave on time, and do what you’re supposed to do in those middle hours. It’s quite another thing to stand out enough where the boss thinks you deserve to be compensated for your great accomplishments. In your relationship, the boss is your significant other (and that’s not sexist or demeaning). You should work hard to make sure that other person is happy with the product (the relationship). The difference between working at a job and having a job where you get promoted and regularly recognized by the boss is the difference between just being in a relationship to be in one and being in a loving, happy, relationship where both parties are happy and growing individually and together.
What do you think? What would happen if you applied a work ethic to your love life?
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