Chances are you probably have one or know someone who has one. That one friend of the opposite sex who you secretly wonder what it would be like if we were more than just friends. You think about it, and then you pause. Your question: Will this work? But we make such good friends. You start to question if a relationship will ruin the foundation of the awesome friendship that you two have created over the years. Does moving from friend zone to relationship zone have to ruin that past life known as your friendship?
Well no, of course not. The transition can be very smooth, leading to that happily ever after that makes up the fantasy of where the relationship is going in your mind. However, making that transition will have to be done with care so you can salvage your friendship in the event that you decide that the relationship zone is not the right zone for both of you.
Start with the basics, communication. Do you both want to be more than just friends? This is a very important step. If both of you want to move full speed ahead into the relationship zone, then great! You both are on the same page and ready to leap over to the other side to see what happens. However, if one person wants that boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and the other wants to just stay in a purely platonic relationship, well then it’s probably not going to work.
Have enough confidence in your friendship to know that bringing up a conversation about moving things to another level will not make the friendship that you share awkward or uncomfortable. Conversations never hurt, but leaving things unsaid will always leave you in a state of wonder with questions unanswered. Be prepared for an answer that you don’t want to hear. Such as, I think we should stay friends. Don’t walk away bitter, remember the friendship you built is stronger than that.
So you’ve talked, you both agree that a relationship is what you both want. Now what? Well keep talking. Don’t ever stop talking. Do you both understand what dating means to you? What does dating look like for each of you?
Since this is a friend, I’m sure you have already discussed with each other random horrible dating stories, and they probably have a good understanding of your relationship personality. Now how you do add romance to that friendship, so you don’t feel like you are just hanging out with a good friend? Well don’t be afraid to date. Plan dates. Enjoy sunset dinners, walks on the beach underneath the stars, or romantic hikes at sunrise. Take a weekend trip to Maui. Since Maui screams romance, you two will definitely feel way outside of that friend zone.
As the relationship changes from friends to actual boyfriend/girlfriend, don’t forget that you two were friend’s way before dating. The ability to just be friends is a key component in any relationship. No need to feel weird, be yourself, its what attracted you two together in the first place. Enjoy! Happy Dating.
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