Have you ever wandered through a haunted house on Halloween night?
Or maybe you’ve watched a movie, or play, where you subject yourself willingly to something you anticipate will scare you. Fun times, right? Really? How so? When you feel frightened do you feel less powerful? If you scare someone, do you feel more powerful?
One of the most powerful treats to explore this Halloween night is to remember the word “AND.”
Isn’t it amazing how easy it is to think in simple binary terms? When scared, the shortest route to feeling safe often forces us to think simplistically. People who use power to bend us into binary thinking force us to choose from an all too short of a list. Think about this. Do you feel more powerful when you begin to see more options to any issue at hand?
The word AND ignites a powerful process known as brainstorming. The art of brainstorming requires us to see things from multiple angles. NOTHING is too silly or outrageous in brainstorming. Something silly may lead to something extraordinarily wonderful. Try engaging the art of brainstorming the next time you feel uncomfortable because some one or something scares you. For example, you’re on the phone with a some type of official that seems all powerful and scary to you.
The moment you feel powerless, ask, “So, can we review what my options are?”
Have them run down the list.
Once you review that list, ask them, “If roles were reversed, would you like these options?“
If they answer, “No” then you’ve GOT them poised to start brainstorming.
If they answer “Yes” ask them which of these options would they choose and why?
Another aspect to the power connected to “AND” helps us see a glass half full more often. AND invites us to think in terms of MORE versus less. As we move from lack-based thinking (living life feeling deprived and disadvantaged) to living a life where we’re amazed at how much there really IS already at hand, we feel more powerful! How’s that old saying go? “Change your mind and you change your world!”
Remember to treat yourself the next time you feel tricked into making a choice from a short list of options. How? Remember your pal “AND” and you’ll find yourself feeling more empowered to make wiser choices each and every time.
Where did we find this powerful treat? Over the past three years hundreds of people have attended a wide variety of workshops and study groups on the topic of personal worth. It’s thrilling to watch people dissolve fears as they engage existing skills boo away guilt, worry, doubt or shame. Please enjoy our tricks and treats based on the ah-ha’s, oh-no’s and WOW’s recorded from multiple events!
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