Dating can be tough, but there are some things singles do that make it even tougher unnecessarily. Watch out and make sure you aren’t committing these dating mistakes which are unfortunately very common for both men and women.
Go to a Place You Always Went With Your Ex
Not only is this tacky, it suggests you still have a strong emotional attachment to the past. You are taking a stroll down memory lane and probably hoping to run into your ex. If you had a volatile relationship or an acrimonious breakup, you’re now putting your date’s safety at risk as well as your own. Come on now! In every major city there are literally thousands of fabulous places to go on a date. Try something new with your new beau.
2.Appear Unsophisticated, Ill-Mannered and/or Dumb
For example, one guy told me his date thought filet mignon was a fish dish. A woman told me her date ordered shrimp, and then proceeded to eat the entire thing- shell, tail and all. Other people tell horror stories of dates exclaiming about the cost of food or drinks they were not paying for, belching, farting and nose blowing at the table, teeth picking and sucking, chewing with the mouth wide open, talking with half chewed food in your mouth, and making insulting comments about the foods of other cultures. Learn the basics of fine dining. Brush up on your table manners and general social etiquette. Don’t embarrass yourself and your date by being less than presentable.
Demanding Dutch Treat After Asking Someone Out
The normal protocol is “ye who doth asketh, so shall ye payeth.” Asking someone out on a date, then waiting until you’re ON the date to tell them “your half is.__” will get you put on blast and talked about on social media like the scoundrel you are. If you are a woman and you asked out a guy, take him someplace you can afford and be prepared to pay the bill in full yourself (though some more traditional men may refuse and pay anyway).
Blather On and On About Your Ex(es)
If asked, the polite thing to do is say the minimum… something about how you grew apart, didn’t see eye to eye on important issues as time went on – something vague like that. You do not need to volunteer information or go into gory detail about the beat downs you suffered, how she cheated on you or took your money, or how you discovered a spouse and family they conveniently forgot to tell you about. No one cares. Really.
Pay More Attention to Your Phone Than Your Date
Blabbing away on your cell phone, texting, or checking email while on a date is a major faux pas. Staring lustfully at other men/women is also on the no-no list.You owe your dating partner the courtesy of your full undivided attention for the hour or two of the date. If you can’t do that, stay at home with your phone! If you didn’t want to go out with this person, why not just be an adult and say so?
Bringing Children or Friends With You on a Date
Friends tag along sometimes to act as a buffer (often on blind dates), or for reassurance for the very young dater. Sometimes its just part of the street hustle so both the date and friend can try to hustle a free drink or meal. Single parents may bring their children because their sitter cancelled at the last minute, though more often the reason is they want to push things along to a “family” level too quickly. Dates are meant for two; no friends and no family unless they were specifically invited by your host.
Talk About Love, Commitment, Marriage or Sex
Discussion of either at an early stage of dating is premature and kinda .. well, it’s just plain stalkerish. You don’t know much about this person yet, so discussing issues of permanency and commitment and dreams of happily ever after with them may cause them to wonder if you are kinda “off”. You know, a nut case. They’ll think you’re either overly anxious (aka desperate), or that you are gaming on them by saying what you think they want to hear. Discussion of sexual things with a mere date is downright uncouth and disrespectful. In the event that someone was considering you a serious contender for their heart, your premature conversation on these topics will make give them cause to step back and reassess your trustworthiness and sanity.