When it comes to love, there are no hard and fast rules that will work for every person or for every situation. Although there are several “classes” or “leagues” of people in this world, the playing field can level out when love steps in. However, dating someone who is out of your league is not always easy. There are challenges that are unique to this situation and those challenges aren’t always overcome, so there may not be the “happily ever after” that you are hoping for.
One of the issues that can be especially challenging has to do with the families of the two people in the relationship. Because “leagues” of people are generally separated by the financial aspects of life, there is typically going to be one person who is from a family with less money and one who is from more money. The distinction between the social positions can be quite upsetting for the families, one of whom often feels that the love interest is not “good enough” for their relative and the other who feels that they are being looked down upon. What usually ends up happening is that there are two families who feel that the relationship is a bad idea and their attitudes have a negative effect on the couple, one which is not always overcome.
There are also societal standards that can affect a couple who are from different social classes as they attempt to build a relationship with one another. The couple may have friends who never accept the relationship and this is a challenge. While most couples will have some other couples that they are mutual friends with and do things with for entertainment, the couple who are unequally matched may not have this benefit. Although they may each have their own friends, not having any together can be a problem.
Hobbies and Interests
Another issue that can face people who are attempting to build relationships outside of their league has to do with the hobbies and interests that they have. Depending on how a person was raised, they have likely developed a variety of likes and dislikes that may have to do with their positions in life. While people who are raised with a lot of money in the family might be used to the more “upper crust” activities such as the ballet, opera, fine dining, or orchestra concerts and have learned to appreciate these, other people have been raised with movie theatres, rock concerts, and county fairs being the way to spend and enjoy their free time. It’s really all a matter of upbringing, rather than either of these sets of activities actually being any better than the other, but people do tend to be most comfortable with what they know.
P)eople who are raised in different stations of life will have different mannerisms from one another, and unless one person is willing to change significantly for the other, the two won’t even look right as a couple. If one person is using vulgar language or chewing on a toothpick while they are standing beside someone who is speaking with eloquent language and has a pressed suit on with shined shoes, the differences are going to be glaringly obvious. These differences can also become a source of contention and/or embarrassment when the couple is interacting with others.
Career and Business
With different socio-economic classes come different careers and businesses. These careers and businesses can demand the need for assorted meetings or other events, some of which may be attended by both people in a serious relationship. There are also some careers, such as politics, that keep a couple in the public eye and judgments are made upon both of the people involved, not just one.
The above have been some of the biggest challenges that face couples who date and try to build relationships with other people who are out of their league, so to speak. Although there are challenges and sometimes obstacles to get around, this is not to say that these relationships can’t work out. There are some people who have successfully bridged the gap between themselves and had wonderful relationships. There are, however, difficulties that are unique to this situation and if you are going out of your league to date someone, you should be prepared to face the challenges that are presented.