Having problems rising to the challenge? Don’t worry ⎯ you’re not alone. According to the Harvard Health Publications, sexual dysfunction affects both men and women of all ages for a variety of reasons.
So, before the men start reaching for the Viagra, or women begin abandoning all hope, try out these helpful tips that may be the ticket to reigniting that spark between the sheets.
Drink in Moderation
We all know that alcohol can act as a social lubricant to help alleviate anxiety and stress ⎯ which helps prepare your mind and body for sex ⎯ but indulging in one too many spirits can have the exact opposite effect. Since alcohol is a depressant, too much booze can reduce your body’s sex drive.
Even though there’s no statistical data to support the fact that some foods can tickle the body’s senses to the point that it puts it in the mood for sex, there’s no harm in trying. Experiment with the kinds of foods that appear sexually suggestive, like chocolate, asparagus, or oysters.
In fact, oysters are known to have a love-inducing reputation by containing many vitamins and minerals, like zinc ⎯ a mineral central to fertility ⎯ which are necessary for good sexual functioning.
According to Mayo Clinic, regular exercise can help improve blood flow to the sexual organs. In addition, committing to a healthy diet and exercise can also assist in increasing your self-confidence. The way you feel about your body can affect the way you feel about sex.
Harvard Health Publications recommends boosting your self-confidence and sex drive by shifting the focus from your flaws to your attributes. By doing this, you can focus more on the pleasure aspect of sex, and not just on the physical element.
According to WebMD, women are particularly susceptible to the effects stress can have on one’s sex life. Men, however, sometimes use sex as a way to relieve stress ⎯ which can cause conflict.
To relieve stress, try participating in some sort of sports activity, meditating, getting a massage, or attending a yoga class.
If you and your partner have just experienced an argument, chances are you are not in the mood for sex. According to Mayo Clinic, women are prone to value emotional closeness as an essential precursor to sexual intimacy.
Furthermore, unresolved conflicts may be harmful to your sexual relationship as well. Communication is an important commodity in relationships. Not only does it help partners build trust between one another, but also it prevents resentment from building, which can damage your sexual relationship.
Which ever approach you decide to take, it’s important to remember that every couple is different. A few trial and errors aside, take your time, and figure out what works best for you and your partner.
Patience is key.