It’s all about relationship. The letters of a word have to stand in certain relationship to one another to make the words. The words have to stand in a certain order to make a sentence. The sentences on a page have to be in a particular order to tell a story. How people are interrelated to each other amounts to create who you are.
It may be transient and impermanent but it creates a unique individual, the integrity and the beauty of each human person and love life
When you see people as they not according to your needs, with them because you have to work with them, or what you think they should be or what you think you should deny them, and become aware of the variousness of the creative and beautiful and full of meaningfulness that they are. When they are allowed to be and completely honored, a mutual scene and presence in which you create each other occurs. We create each other through our relationships. They add to your personhood. They are deeply influential in our lives. They reinforce our lives and sense of worth.
The current that runs between us
In relationships you have a greater meaning than you do alone. When you come together with another person you are a polarity of electricity that goes back and forth in a relational process. When you are in a loving relationship you are more in their eyes than you could be on your own. To transform, to nurture, to enforce is to love an individual for who they are. To stand alone individually is not going to satisfy the human heart, the hunger to love and be loved. That begins with being seen and being heard by another.
It’s not about the individual person
Life and more abundantly for persons who see and stand seeing in each other’s eyes. If it isn’t love you are always going to be short of what is necessary in humanity. It’s a natural earthing, grounding sanctity.
The ground for forgiveness is caring about another person. It’s the ground for the relationship. The creation of community that is forgiving. The solution for bearing a grudge is learning to let it go to live in loving kindness with people. You are managing your psyche, your mind. If you are missing relationship and the presence of divine, you are missing the whole teaching, and practice evades you.
Some of the most generous and loving relationships are the direct nature of nirvana. The capacity to see others as they are, just seeing them in their own pristine “as they are” is profound. To listen, to be present, is a byproduct of practicing relationship.
Love is equanimity
Meditation is very pleasurable and expansive, and filling your mind and your heart with the value and the beauty. But you are not loving in a relationship. The lack of personal focus is the hunger to love and be loved. It is being loved the way Jesus meant. We know that Jesus did. Jesus wept at the tomb of Lazarus. Jesus and the prophets talkd a lot about community and friendships and life together.