Have you ever irked and/or repelled another person? That’s what you call a rhetorical question. It’s fine, that’s just how people are.
Maybe you offended someone and didn’t even know it. Maybe you did it on purpose, and maybe fifty-four years ago Jon Stone saw you on the street and your disposition inspired him to conceive Oscar the Grouch, in which case you’re probably still bitter because you have it in your mind that you’re just unpleasant like that. If you are a Grouch, or a Grinch, or a Kanye West, you are not alone and you are not a lost cause. In fact, this article may very well be just the thing that you need, if one can be so bold and debase the word “article” in that way. (If not this article, then definitely one of these. Pure educational gold right here.)
Very much the same way that hospitals are not necessarily for the healthy, articles about friendship on the internet are not exclusively for superstar socialites like Miley Cyrus. Despite that tasteless joke, articles about friendship on the internet are, in all seriousness, very much for the misanthropic “Grouches” of the world; it is those who are willing to learn from and make up for their mistakes who will have the tools to become someone that people look at and say “Wow. That dude/girl is awesome. He/she has so many friends.” as opposed to “Meh. Grinches be crazy.”
You see, people are temperamental. It doesn’t take much to sway a person in either direction; for that matter, you probably don’t realize just how powerful you are. You could ruin a person’s day so easily. (Or you could, you know, not.) You could make someone’s day with just as little effort, and pretty much everybody wins. When someone holds the door open for you at Earth Fare, your face adopts a smile as you browse for expensive organic food. When a woman at H&M makes a comment about how handsome you look in those jeans she wants you to buy from her, you will probably buy them and also believe her because it feels good to be handsome, so they say. These anti-Grouch people are just peachy, aren’t they? Don’t you want people to say that about you?
Sometimes you’re the toe stomper; other times you’re the toe stompee. When you’re the stomper, be sorry and make sure they know that you didn’t mean it and that you’re a great person, you promise.
When you’re the stompee, swallow your pride (and your tears) and be the bigger man/woman. Take it as incentive to appreciate the door-openers of the world – and inspiration to touch the hearts of those you encounter, so to speak. It’s a metaphor.
Not everyone is going to like you, but you can certainly make it hard for those who choose not to . . . by being adorable. And who knows? Maybe the coming articles will delve deeper into the matter of etiquette and adorability – perhaps even into the shallow end of the romantic tide pool. Maybe they won’t, but then you did just read that.