Halloween is one of the few opportunities that lends itself to meeting new people and one of the only with an unofficial acceptance of uninhibited silliness and sexuality. It would be a frightful time if you were to miss out on the chance to publicly play out your fantasies with less judgment. Ensure that you get yourself a few tricks and treats this year by following these 5 tips:
Decorate: Get in the mood. A little extra effort can have a huge benefit. Prep candy for trick-or-treaters or a sweet come-on at a party, decorate or carve pumpkins; make it an activity with a special someone for a unique first date or use it as an easy excuse to invite someone you like over without seeming too pushy.
Where to go: Go where you feel comfortable, meet new people and will be able to stay awhile. Halloween is an easier night to develop relationships because it lends itself to interacting with the same people multiple times, so don’t leave too soon. Costumes are more memorable than faces and make it easier to re-engage someone. The more interactions, the stronger an impression you can build.
Mentality: Be positive about every costume. No one should be judged for letting go of inhibitions and joining the festivities. Slut-shaming in this instance, negativity targeted at “slutty-xyz” costumes only promotes sexual double standards and gets in the way of meeting new people.
Date ideas: Take advantage of every theme for easy and organic dates. Halloween brings a buffet; pumpkin patches, shopping for costumes and decorations, picking apples, scary movies, haunted houses, and more! Stay up to date on local activities and you’ll have a month few of easy ways to socialize.
Costumes: It’s important to have a good part to play throughout the night. Browse local thrift stores and online for a large and cheap selection of ways to be creative. Accessories and props are great but tend to get annoying over time, so make sure they are attachable, disposable or something you’re planning to give out by the end of the night.
- Prepare conversation starters about your costume. For example, if you are dressing up as a Bears Superfan you can ask people what’s the craziest thing they would do for tickets to a Bears game.
- Be unique when commenting on someone else’s costume because by now they probably heard most clichés and compliments.
- Your costume can be and should be your way of meeting people. Interacting as your costumed character or teaming-up with someone else’s can ease the tension of introductions and help you get to know someone’s interests and personality in a fun way. For example, if you love the Chicago Bears, dress up as an over the top Bears fan (think Saturday Night Live Superfans) and put Bears stickers on everyone you are interested in.
Have fun, be safe, meet new people and be sure to take advantage (and photos) of all the ways you can have a great Halloween!
Benjamin Ritter, MBA, MPH, Author of The Essentials and co-founder of Suave Lover International and the Suave Lover podcast (subscribe on iTunes), is a freelance writer and a private relationship-and-social-dynamics coach in the areas of public health, fitness, and social dynamics, a writer and editor for Ask Men.com, and the interpersonal relationships columnist for ventwing.com. His passion lies in guiding and providing tools to men for overall self-improvement. For more information go to http://www.Benjamin-Ritter.com
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